Improving your EQ is relatively simple, but profoundly difficult and that’s because you’re wading across the tide…not against the tide which can knock you on your…rear.
You’re making progress, but it’s taking grit, muscle, flexibility…
Every single emotional response we have gives us information. Usually, we choose to ignore that information by:
- swallowing our feelings along with a piece of chocolate cake, glass of wine or dark chocolate covered almond…or is that just me?
- regurgitating our feelings with slammed doors, raised voices, silence and isolation…also, just me?
Here’s a better way that will increase your EQ points, improve relationships with others and help you think better of yourself, doggoneit!
First…the event…whatever it is…triggers an emotional response which lasts approximately SIX SECONDS!
Instead of swallowing or regurgitating, breathe from the bottom of your belly filling your lungs, holding for a count of 3, then releasing slowly through your mouth.
Fill in the blanks: When this happened, I immediately felt _________. My first thought about me is that ______________. When I think this thought, I feel (repeat your emotion). Breathe again as you repeat this in your mind…do you feel its truth in your body’s response?
OKAY! Good Job! You just sat with your feelings and identified the ROOT CAUSE of your feeling…your thoughts! Now you can choose to ACT instead of REACT.
Don’t you feel smarter already?
Let me know if you have other methods you use to improve your EQ!
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